Rosh Hashana is just around the corner. A time for reflection. A time to celebrate what is working well in our lives and take note of our opportunities for continuous improvement.
I have observed that as many of the Boomers reflect on the year, they can see they’ve been wonderful parents, grandparents and children; often times while juggling careers and more. Wow! Take a moment and breathe in all the amazing light you’ve given to your family and your community.
But now the next question—how do you replenish that light that you give and give? Can you run on empty? The answer is, of course, NO! So… Why do so many Boomers feel guilty when they carve out time for their own wellness?
I took an informal poll and found that many Boomers feel that prioritizing their own wellness is an indulgence. It is quite the opposite. In order to keep doing all that you do for the generations above and below you, you need your stamina and vitality. How are you going to keep juggling everything if you don’t take care of YOU?
When is it ok to stop and give yourself attention? Do you (G*d forbid) need to be diagnosed with an illness first? Are you waiting until you are so tired that you can’t do it anymore and your children will step in and follow your example by taking care of you? What is the magic moment that it becomes ok? What has to happen for you to give yourself permission to take care of you?
As the New Year rolls around, and you take the time for reflection, I encourage you to reevaluate the way you prioritize your own wellness in this coming year. If you have already been prioritizing your wellness—then AWESOME, keep it up. And if not, maybe it’s time.
What’s stopping you from putting on your own oxygen mask first?
Your first reaction to that question may be to think caregiving and putting on an oxygen mask do not fall into the same category. And then, if you get past that, you may be rattling off in your head the laundry list of people you take care of and you may be annoyed with the computer screen (and me) for even asking the question. If you did have a strong reaction, that’s great. It means we are onto something. It means there is a very real, very strong belief system in you that you need to take care of others before you take care of yourself. What does it mean for you?
There may be some old beliefs inside you. Beliefs that served you well for a certain stage in your life, that may no longer serve you. So in this season of reflection, perhaps it is time to thank your amazing human vehicle for giving and giving. Maybe even take a moment to enjoy and appreciate the gifts your body has offered as you continued to ask so much without even realizing it.
And perhaps, if you feel you are ready….
Make your own wellness one of your highest priorities in 5773
Wondering how? You can check out the other wellness posts here at Jewish Sacred Aging, you can ask a question in the comments section below, or you can visit me at FueltheBodyWell.com for some tips on caring for your amazing human vehicle and loving on yourself so you have the energy and vitality to do all the things that make you authentically you.
Happy New Year.
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