2020 — The Year Without Our Garden

It all started with our neighbor, Mac, almost 15 years ago.

He was a farmer at heart, although he owned a gas station to earn his living. Until he moved to Stoney Run in retirement, he lived in an old farmhouse with several acres. He grew corn and tomatoes, other vegetables, and flowers for his wife, who loved them.

When they moved, the acreage was gone and Mac was miserable. A day without his hands in the soil, until the ground froze, was a day sad and wasted. So he came up with an idea. There was a large patch of ground, untouched, by the trail and stream, near the Treehouse 🌲 (the name I give to my large balcony overlooking the trail, field and stream ). He asked and was given permission to cultivate it – flowers only – but he had to maintain it himself.

And so it began. Just a few plants and bulbs the first year. The second year, tulips, daffodils, hyacinths and crocuses appeared in Spring, and all thru the Fall he planted. Several of us watched and admired the beauty he was creating. We chatted and friendships grew. Soon we were setting up picnic tables in the little garden and enjoying our “garden lovers” meals.

Slowly, we asked if we could help, not wanting to insult him, but longing to garden too. He was happy to have us join him. Mac loved company and nothing made him happier than watching us lug bags of mulch and topsoil, plant and water our growing little community garden. Soon it became a well known  stop on the trail. People and children watched to see things grow – what new things would be added – and even offered to help.

And then, local critters began to visit. The geese and ducks brought their babies. Chipmunks, raccoons, rabbits, turtles, wild turkeys, birds of all kinds and deer became regular visitors!

For those of us who loved the outdoors and gardens, we had our own little Paradise and shared taking care of it!

Several years later, Mac died unexpectedly. We were heartbroken. But we knew the garden would continue in his honor, and we added to it every year. It thrived. Last year we planted a small butterfly sanctuary and watched in amazement as the seeds appeared on the butterfly bushes, then the larva, the cocoons, the caterpillar  and finally the butterflies!

Last night, on a phone call made to all the garden group, it was decided that it would not be possible for us to have or maintain the garden this year. It was too much work for one person at a time, and social Isolation made working as a group impossible.

So many terrible things are happening as this pandemic rages on. Certainly, a garden is not on that list. And yet, the impact of this seemingly unimportant decision was surprisingly painful!  It has caught me by surprise – the little things that I miss. The moments that seem ordinary but fill a day with pleasure and fulfillment.

So we mourn the end of Mac’s Garden — our little Paradise — fruit of our labor and love.

And hope and pray we will be digging in the soil again next year.

About Carole Leskin
Carole Leskin is a retired director of global human resources. Embarking on a second career as a writer and photographer concentrating on her personal accounts of aging, her essays and poetry, frequently accompanied by her photos, are published regularly in Jewish Sacred Aging, Starts At 60, Navigating Aging ( a Kaiser Health publication) Women's Older Wisdom, and Time Goes By. Her poems, Father Time and Carole's Debate were selected for inclusion in the 2019 anthologies of poetry, New Jersey Bards. Her photos have been featured in Mart R Porter Nature Forum. She is the founder of the blog YBAlone, which focuses on the challenges of growing older, especially for those who live alone with no family or support system, an issue that affects her personally.

2 Comments

  1. Carol, what a sad post, — I hope that you’re right about a return to the old “natural” order of your garden community next year. Still, I’m not sure why you can’t organize (easy for me to say) some continuing activities, that can be done by individuals/very small groups (at an appropriate distance) in some continuing order, like an “attending” program” (weeding, dead-heading, general maintenance, and quiet “observation” of changes in, and visitors to, your garden, and a continuing reporting to and sharing with the rest of the community … sort of a “garden brigade” until the “all-safe” signal sounds …. All the best, from a fellow gardener, who hopes (as does your garden) that you find a way to keep it going ….

  2. Sandra Taradash May 3, 2020 at 11:43 am

    Thank you for sharing . One of the many sad consequences of this terrible time in our lives. I Mother Nature will lend a hand!

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