Way beyond the lushness of the cinematography and some very snappy writing is a much more interesting message that slowly emerges in the film. I will spare you the precis except to say that you can look at this movie as a sort of excursion into the fantasy world of longing for some golden past; the “good old days”. Some of us, especially as we age, may fall into this trap of wishing that we could go back to some previous time when things were better, simpler, “easier” or, well, they seemed that way. We often have a tendency to “romanticize” the past, especially when we think that the present is so challenging (and it is!).
Yet, the reality is that we are here, in this time, in this moment and nostalgia is just nothing more than our souls desire to create some fantasy of what we wish the past to have been. In the end of the movie our hero, Gil, chooses to risk listening to his soul and follow his own path. In the end, he uses the past to forge a new present for himself. And that is the way it is supposed to be.
Life, as we get older, certainly gets more complicated and the choices we make take on greater meaning and come with greater consequences. And it is often difficult to take that risk and to follow a dream. However, we cannot go back except in books, or films, or fantasy. We are living in the present and trying to create our future. Our challenge is to make choices for life and truth and faith, choices that allow us to flourish as full human beings. We wake every day to new challenges and are encouraged by our tradition to bless the daily miracles of life. In doing so we can celebrate the day that is before us and also reflect back to the Carly Simon song, Anticipation, which reminds us that, in many ways, “these are the good old days”.
Rabbi Richard F Address, D.Min
Rabbi Richard F. Address, D.Min, is the Founder and Director of www.jewishsacredaging.com. Rabbi Address served for over three decades on staff of the Union for Reform Judaism; first as a Regional Director and then, beginning in 1997, as Founder and Director of the URJ’s Department of Jewish Family Concerns and served as a specialist and consultant for the North American Reform Movement in the areas of family related programming. Rabbi Address was ordained from Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion in 1972 and began his rabbinic career in Los Angeles congregations. He also served as a part time rabbi for Beth Hillel in Carmel, NJ while regional director and, after his URJ tenure, served as senior rabbi of Congregation M’kor Shalom in Cherry Hill, NJ from 2011-2014.